LOVE and BEYOND

Whenever a guy starts talking to people on this issue ,it is wrong to assume –

a) He has had his love crushed .
b) He has a beard to indicate the above point.
(P.S—he is just plain lazy)
c) His views will definitely be a chauvinistic one .

A nerd could say ‘Relationships are like a chemical experiment involving all the dangerous acids and the resulting product after such a tough experiment will disappear over time .’

Relationships in general need to be nurtured carefully.Sometimes , very small things change the way ,the other person ; looks at you. It may be something as simple as requiring you to put on your pants and go out to help or a call to solve their problem. The amount of interest and help you show towards them is important .
Never think –‘It is the thought that counts’ cause
‘Actions speak louder than words.’
All words and no action is going to affect your relationship adversely. It could be as much as getting vegetables for your mother ,getting a chocolate for your sister or a kiss with your lover .Remember not to be lazy in showing your care. If you actually don’t care and try to do something just to grab their attention ,watch out then cause in order to keep showing the level of commitment needed in maintaining any relationship a great deal of love and care is needed to drive you to keep the relationship intact.

All of us have very short concentration and interest span . Try thinking of having to talk and work with the same person forever through thick and thin ,it is definitely not going to be easy.The only way to maintain relationships is to commit yourself totally to it and try to extract maximum joy out of that relationship. As a child, we would have fought with our mother for some toy or chocolate that was eventually refused and we would have ended up making a big fuss and treating our parents badly. If your mother does not love you or she hates having the bond with you , once you start causing problems , she can dump you and go off. Try to understand her love and affection when even though you are putting tantrums, she explains to you the reason of denying you something you want and also sits with you till you get better . This holds good whether the person is your mother /father , sister/brother or your fiancé.

Any decision taken in haste may cause trouble . Honesty , trust, love are requisites to maintain proper relationship. If we commit ourselves and then realize that we took a wrong decision ,try to talk out the problem with the person concerned rather than avoiding communicating with that person .If the situation deteriorates and no solution can be found other than breaking up, do that properly and move on. People can observe from their own experiences that it is very difficult to give up on what you love just because it is not working out well, however it is something that has to be done. During this transition from childhood to adulthood, we have moved on ,in a wide variety of issues. When we were fighting for a chocolate as kids, we are now fighting for top ups to our mobile phone. The same way you have to move on from certain relationships though it is very hard to do it. In the end , we will end up with the person with whom we can derive the maximum out of a relationship . Till then keep trying.